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Learning How to Not Do, What You Don’t Love.

Learning How to Not Do, What You Don’t Love.

That TITLE.

I know you probably read it and we’re like YAH Bev (it’s BevERLEY btw), obviously don’t do what you don’t love. Why would I do something I don’t love? That’s so silly.

Okay, but just hear me out:

When I was in university and played rugby, I was INTENT on being one of the fittest people on that field (mainly because I definitely was one of the smallest). I would get up and run every other morning at 6 am, and then workout later that day. Once I had graduated, I continued to wake up at 6 am to run because I didn’t know any different.

Learning How to Not Do, What You Don’t Love

And you know what?

I HATED IT. I didn’t like waking up so early, I hated how cold it was at that time, and  cringed at having to put my contacts in before my eyes had fully adjusted. I disliked it so much, that I started to resent myself every time I woke up to run. Unfortunately by this point in my life, I was convinced that to stay in shape, I needed to run 3-4 mornings a week. If I didn’t, my body would obviously turn into a ball of dough.

A dough-y Beverley Cheng.

After a few more months of those morning runs, eventually I said ‘screw it,’ and stopped them altogether. Instead, I decided to do it on my own terms – this meant cutting back completely, and going once or twice on the weekends at a time that suited me. You know what happened?

EVERYTHING and NOTHING.

Changing those runs from 4 mornings a week before the sun was up, to once a week when the sun was shining made me a much happier person. I started to remember why I enjoyed running so much in the first place! And what happened to my body? Literally nothing. If anything, I got a bit leaner and tighter. I definitely did not become a cookie dough brownie.

So what does this mean for you?

It’s simple – if you’re doing something that you don’t enjoy doing, QUIT IT. It’s okay to quit.  (But I mean, if you don’t like your job, don’t go ahead and quit your job and then come calling on me for answers). If there is something that you’re doing in your day to day life, whether it is fitness related, relationships, work, hobbies that you are no longer interested in, there is nothing that is keeping you from changing it.

Learning How to Not Do, What You Don’t Love

Don’t be like me and think that just because it’s become a part of your routine, you have to keep doing it. No! People change, your goals change, situations change – something you may have loved back then, may be something that you no longer love now. If it’s making you unhappy, take a step back and realize that you’re never without an option to fix it.

Running might seem like a superficial analogy, but it really does apply in many ways. I was not happy stuck in that routine. And every time I missed a run, I felt bad about myself all day. If it doesn’t make you 100% happy, then in my opinion it doesn’t matter what the change is. Big or small, the impact can be tremendous.

Those are my two cents… What about you??

  • Is there something that you’re doing now that makes you unhappy?
  • What is one thing that has changed for you since 5 years ago?
  • Thoughts/comments?

 

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  1. LOL you’re too funny. ” (But I mean, if you don’t like your job, don’t go ahead and quit your job and then come calling on me for answers).” hahah. Also, putting on contacts in the morning before a run might be the worst part. Thanks for sharing, couldn’t agree more with this post <3

    • beverleyc

      18 April

      Contact lenses are seriously the bane of our existence hahaha. Glad that you liked the post 🙂 xx

  2. This advice applies to every area of your life. If something isn’t making you happy, find a way to change it! Life is short. Happiness is important.

    • beverleyc

      19 April

      Agreed! Sometimes its just hard to see it so clearly and simply

  3. So my running buddies are currently making plans to run at 4:45am. I think are just tired of rushing home in rush hour traffic to run. I am a huge proponent of only doing things that make me happy and are easier in my life.

    • beverleyc

      19 April

      omgoodness. that would be too much for me. but rush hour is a nightmare too… hmmm!!!

  4. katalysthealth

    18 April

    This is such a great post!! I absolutely LOVE working out. I love all aspects of fitness, except the running part. In high school I was an epic cardio bunny because of my exercise addiction. It was my way of trying to lose weight, of trying to be the best soccer player, etc. etc. So now because of that, I just hate running. So I don’t do it! I’ll get the occassional craving for it, but it’ll be a craving to run bleachers or sprints. Never just a mile jog or something. Bleh.

    • beverleyc

      19 April

      its so funny how we turn on something from doing too much of it… but i agree – bleacher runs and sprints are something i won’t ever get tired of!

  5. I definitely needed to hear this and it’s something I’m working on! I think part of my problem is learning how to say “no”. I do social media consulting outside of my day job and the blog and sometimes I’ll take on clients that I don’t love just “because”. I am working on saying no or “quitting” my relationship with them because it’s not worth my time and doesn’t make me happy. 5 years ago I would have taken on anything and everything, but now I’m learning to be more selective because time is very precious to me 😉

    • beverleyc

      19 April

      thats so interesting! i didn’t know you did social media consulting. you are too kind Kellen, that’s why you can’t say no! that’s awesome though you’re getting so much work. good for you 🙂

  6. Diana

    19 April

    I love this post! Too many people stay at jobs they hate or try to force working out doing things they hate and guess what YOU HAVE OPTIONS! It’s scary to make changes but so necessary! Last year I finally had the courage to quit my old job and have never been happier in my life and found something I love doing even more.

    • beverleyc

      19 April

      Ahh that’s so cool! i would love to hear to story of you quitting your old job. Amazing that you got the courage to do that – i’m sure it inspired your friends and family

  7. Everything and nothing, that says it all 🙂 When you find exercise that actually feels enjoyable, it makes all the difference (mentally) and breaking a rigid routine really won’t change your body (physically)

  8. Psychic Nest

    22 April

    Hi Beverley,

    I totally resonate with what you are saying. Some years ago, I was trying to fit in my routine what pleases others and not me. I ended up living a life I didn’t love but I felt I was “obliged to”. One day, I woke up with the thought to change everything. And I did. Now I am happy and teaching other people how to do the same. Thank you for being such an inspiration! 🙂

    Zaria

  9. I can totally relate girl! I ran for my college for a year, and made the tough decision to walk away because of it no longer making me happy. Its never easy, but boy is it worth it! If something no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy…its time to walk away 🙂

    xo,

  10. This is all 1000% true… sometimes you just need someone to point it out, or that moment of realization, you know?!

  11. I really, really love this post, Beverley! I totally forget sometimes that I DON’T have to do some of the things I don’t like doing…like no one’s making me- I’m making myself! And your post helped convince me to drop a class for next year that I don’t HAVE to take but felt like I should 🙂

    • beverleyc

      4 May

      Liv that means so much to me!! Thank you for sharing that, I am so happy that it resonated with you. You are amazing xx

  12. Natalie

    10 May

    Agreed!!! I totally feel ya here. WHY would we do stuff we hate to do? I recently started evaluating stuff that I LOVE doing and made sure I started doing more of that! I live near the beach, so I’m making it a point to go for a run at the beach minimum 2 times a week because I love it soooo much 🙂 Great post BevERLEY 😉

  13. Love this! Wow…5 years ago I had 0 kids…now I have 3! LOL! So a ton has changed, but I’ve found that incorporating something I love into everyday has helped me not lose “me” in the process…you know? Sometimes the things we love naturally have aspects we could live without (e.g. diapers, yuck) but it’s so worth it! 🙂 Even the most passionate love for something (person, job, etc) takes work to maintain! Love how you said that “everything & nothing” happened when you switched up your routine! <3 SO true!

    • beverleyc

      16 May

      Thank you Laura! Yes that’s crazy to think how things have changed so much in the span of 5 years. You are an incredible momma <3

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