Every, single, daaay we are bombarded with articles and images about different people living their dream lives. Doing their dream jobs. Living in their dream city and hanging out with their dream squad. The effect of these articles and photos is taking a toll on the rest of society (us average people) and leading us to believe that WE TOO can live enviable, sexy, passionate lives every single day.
It’s gotten SO BAD, it’s at the point where journalists are saying that our Generation Y has a passion problem.
We aren’t realistic anymore. We aren’t practical. We want to drop out of University, get some ‘real life’ skills by taking out a $20,000 loan to go live abroad to find ourselves and not have to worry about wearing shoes.
photocred: Jen Serdetchnaia
Generation Y loves checking Facebook/now Instagram/now Snapchat/back to Instagram stories. More and more university graduates are living at home and feel entitled to live this way because we’ve been taught over and over that we need to follow our passion, rather than work at some job that we aren’t obsessed waking up to every day.
And if you don’t work at a job that you’re not 110% dedicated/passionate/IN LOVE with, then what is the point? You’re obviously not living to your highest potential for happiness. You’re basically just working to live! For shame.
I’m here to tell you that no, none of that is true. And you should definitely NOT feel that way.
Your Goals & Passions Will Change
When I was just about to go into University, my SERIOUS TO GOD plan was to graduate with a business degree, get a high paying job in finance, work 12 hours a day and make a TON of money. Also I would not get a boyfriend till I was 30, and I would most definitely work somewhere like the UK or Hong Kong for a few years.
Literally, not a single one of those things came true, except for graduating with a business degree.
Instead I got a very average paying job in marine insurance, moved in with my boyfriend of 1 year, settled down in Toronto, and oh – I work exactly 8 hours a day.
When people hear that I work in insurance, their expressions change so quickly. First confusion. Then a little bit of pity. Then some understanding, but not fully. How could this fitness obsessed human work behind a desk all day, and in insurance no less. It just doesn’t make sense.
I’ve actually had people tell me “Oh, that must suck!” when I say I work in insurance.
Let me tell you this: I like my job. I actually like it quite a bit more than you would expect, and if I didn’t, I would have quit by now.
However – Am I obsessed with it? Do I think about all the ways I could become a better marine underwriter when I go home at night? Do I wake up with a smile on my face, excited to issue some new policies? Ummm, no. I’m not totally lame.
And I 100% believe THAT is where society is going wrong with this mindset. As soon as we realize that we’re not dedicated/passionate/IN LOVE with our job, we don’t see the point in continuing. No one sees the value of putting in your time and due diligence and working up to whatever your passion may be.
And here is the real clincher of this story: although I may not be working my dream job right now or even in the next couple of years, I still consider myself to be one of the luckiest, happiest, and fulfilled people on this planet.
My full-time job allows me to do absolutely everything that I want to do. It’s no surprise that my real passion lies in health & fitness – creating workouts, coming up with delicious and wholesome recipes, training other people, and modelling for sports companies.
I finish work at 4 pm everyday which allows me time to workout in less crowded gym. I have vacation days which let me take time off to model, fly to see my parents, or go on vacation to Bali. I never have to worry about getting called in to work weekends, and instead, use that time to work on my blog, create recipes, and train clients.
Most importantly, my job allows me to live in Toronto. It allowed me to buy a condo with Adam with a view of the CN Tower AND the lake. It allows me to travel, expense the hell out of fancy meals, pays for sailing lessons, AND it doesn’t stress me out. All these things are so, SO important to me, which is why I’ve stayed at my job for the past 3 and a half years.
Let’s stop using lack of passion as an excuse for our laziness and unwillingness to put effort in. Be happy with what you have, while you continue to work and make time for the things you love. In my opinion, that is one of the best ways for living your life to the fullest.